I hate to admit this, but I'm one of those types too (who you wouldn't want as the authors of your obit).

I've been called every name in the book by my own friends, e.g., Dunning-Kruger, "full of it", etc, etc. I know all these terms. I just don't know how to come across as a humble person, despite it hurting in my personal/social/work life. The only thing that helps is if I interact with others less (there I go again).