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Don’t Indulge. Be Happy. (nytimes.com)
90 points by mjfern on July 8, 2012 | hide | past | favorite | 44 comments


My perspective is $75k a year (or whatever your number is) is all fine and dandy until something bad happens.

I'm sure there are far far worse stories than this but for example, my father, an eletrical engineer, left a job at a big company for a small start up at 50. The company went bankrupt 10 years later. His gamble to make it big failed. At 60 no one would hire him. (a) they expected him to retire at 65. (b) health insurance premiums are like 6x to 10x for the company for him vs someone 20-35 years younger.

So, he now drives a delivery van at 67. No retirement for him. Let's hope he has no serious medical bills.

My point is of course that $75k or whatever is fine day to day but you need a lot more to survive retirement.

http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/retirement/

At 47 myself I find it a much harder choice to choose a job with less pay knowing that I risk the same fate as my father. I'm not saying I won't take that risk. I might. But it's not as easy as choosing happiness today for less money. Today effects tomorrow. It might be better to try to find happiness in the higher paying job so that you can be happy for longer than to trade short term happiness now and possible suffering later.

Yea, there's no guarantee either way. YMMV etc. Again, all I'm saying is it's over simplifying to say the only thing to consider is "will this life style make me happy today even though I'd be making less money"


The more I read this sort of insights, the happier I am to not be a US citizen.


What are you then?

All my (little) retirement money got either paid into the German or Swiss system. And no, I don't think my retirement is safer than that of my US friends.

Frankly, my plan is to just never retire. But of course that's just the naive idea of a 20-something.


They're probably talking about the whole "let's hope he never gets sick" part.


Indeed. Here in Uruguay, in a similar circumstance as greggman described you might get a U$ 400 pension (once a month), which is below subsistence level... but you're entitled to the same healthcare as the 98% of the population, up to and including expensive cancer or AIDS treatments. (the top 2% do have additional levels of coverage available by spending more money).


In the US, at age 67, he should be getting Social Security and Medicare. That's a pension and healthcare. It might not be enough, but it's something.

Social Security will pay ~$1,800 a month assuming a birth date in 1945 and a maximum salary of $65,000.

Medicare covers most things - including serious medical. My grandfather and grand mother both had massive hospital bills due to Alzheimer's covered by Medicare. The major exception is nursing home care - that is not covered by Medicare.

[1] http://www.socialsecurity.gov/planners/benefitcalculators.ht...

[2] http://www.medicare.gov/navigation/medicare-basics/medicare-...


Do those cover "serious medical bills"?

If so, greggman's argument is no longer valid.


Medicare is not bad, but that only counts for people who are retired. In this specific case the OP might be wrong about the dangers to their dad, but for most people this is a huge scare.


One of my primary objections to privatized health insurance centers around the fact that employers are left footing the bill. We see time and again that this does hamper hiring and employment. It's no coincidence that health insurance remains one of the primary sticking points in a shocking number of labor union disputes.


He could leave the country and live like a king on a limited fixed income. Probably still have enough for 1-2 yearly trips to visit family in USA.


Lets forget the standard problems with measuring happiness and comparing it between different populations. There are issues there, but lets pretend like thats an accepted, valid practice that distills real truth. We're also going to pretend that people are completely honest when they fill these surveys out. What about some of these examples they use?

The chocolate example: The conclusion completely ignores the utility of having had chocolate on each day before the end of the week. If the result, that the marginal utility of a piece of chocolate a week later was less for people who had a lot of chocolate in between, surprised you, you've forgotten what marginal utility is. Do I need to really mention what's wrong with this comparison? Do people only enjoy chocolate on the weekend?

The children with goldfish: Imagine you earned a salary in NY strip steak as part of an experiment. Would you consider that experiment useful in drawing conclusions about money and utility or happiness?

The money in an envelope example: I'm not going to say anything about this, because I said in my intro that I'm going to ignore self-reporting bias caused by confronting someone about whether they acted ethically or not. (hint: if someone trusts you to do something and you don't do it, you may be less happy than someone who did do it--especially it is consistent with social expectations).

I don't mean to dispute the point the article is making, but honestly, after seeing the substance, I'm less inclined to believe it than I was beforehand.


When I read the article, I suspected there may be some ideological (mis)uses of the content. It seems to me that there will be a very positive reaction to it from who are more collectivist/socialist/liberal oriented, and a negative one from the indivudualist/objectivist/conservative oriented. Making some (potentially incorrect) assumptions from your language (choice of terms largely), I would guess you are in the later group.

I think that the strong potential for ideological differences to erupt in a flame war in this thread is high, and therefore want to suggest perhaps we look at the actual research mentioned before attacking it as reported in the New York Times (a place we largely deride for awful science reporting in most other cases), rather than make assumptions about it based on our ideological gut reactions to the conclusions.


I would contend that the piece was inherently ideological, and the editors saw where it was problematic. It is the sunday opinions page. I reckon its purpose is to solicit sultry conversation.


> I'm less inclined to believe it than I was beforehand.

I'm not arguing with anything you said, and agree the article provided weak (if not no) evidence for the idea that increasing money has marginal utility for happiness.

What evidence did it provide that has convinced you that increasing money doesn't have marginal utility for happiness?


Could you rephrase the question? I'm having trouble understanding your meaning.


Since the NYT does throw in the "$75,000 for happyness" study results, I feel obligated to mention the WSJ's adjustment for cost-of-living.

No surprise, of course, that New York itself stands out as being a particularly difficult place in which to be happy :

http://blogs.wsj.com/economics/2010/09/07/what-salary-buys-h...

Note that this is not directly related to the central tenet of the article, which I actually found quite interesting.


I wonder if that direct adjustment is actually the proper way to do it. That's implying a hypothesis that the money-happiness relationship varies due to COL, but is constant once adjusted for purchasing-power parity. But it seems at least plausible that the relationship is a different one. I'd be interested if anyone's directly studied what the money-happiness correlation is in NYC versus, say, Omaha. I wouldn't be surprised to see a deviation in either direction; perhaps New Yorkers need more than the COL-adjusted equivalent to be happy, or perhaps they need less. May even vary among sub-groups.

In my own case, I've found that the amount of money I need to be satisfied with my income tends to scale less than linearly with COL. In higher-COL places I spend a bigger proportion of my income on rent, and do more low-cost entertainment, in part because more low-cost entertainment is available. For example, I've lived in both Houston and Santa Cruz, and I was quite happy doing a lot of free and cheap things in Santa Cruz, with its great beaches, hiking, etc. In Houston, I had to spend money for entertainment.


are these numbers pre-tax?


Cost of living varies by a factor of 3x or more across the USA. This fact is ignored every time the meaningless "$75,000" figure is trotted around.


Exactly. And as other have pointed out here, its ironic that of all places a newspaper could be from, the New York Times ignores this fact.


Most people want to get the promotions and the money, but I think it's not only to buy the materialistic stuff they want. For many white-collar workers it's about the prestige, the status, the self-validation, and the respect these things tend to bring about. I think the thesis of this article applies to these "emotional" indulgences as well. I'd say if you respect yourself and have a sense of inner peace AND you acknowledge that you don't NEED to go from $75,000 to $175,000 (though of course it'd be nice) it gives you a kind of freedom from the shackles of what goes on at many a workplace. You can develop your skills because you enjoy getting better, do good work because you like what you do, and often get a promotion and more money as a byproduct without having to focus on it. That's one of the good things about the programming field :)

With regard to the "giving", I wonder what theories there are about why many people feel good when giving things up to benefit others. Is it just a societal/cultural thing, influenced by religions?


> With regard to the "giving", I wonder what theories there are about why many people feel good when giving things up to benefit others.

Imagine two cultural scenarios: one where everyone is looking out for themselves and helping no one, and another where people are genuinely concerned with each other and eager to help when needed. Which culture would you want to live in?

I think we tend to by default project our motivations onto others (especially in the absence of data). So if we are primarily selfish in our motivations, we think the people around us are selfish. So my guess is that being generous makes us feel like the world is a generous place.

Also, our parents probably taught us that sharing with others is good. So we get a little psychological "stroke" of affirmation about our inner goodness by being generous.


Regarding your post and the parent post: humans are primates, and in amost all primate species a social hierarchy exists, suggesting this is more than social accident when it comes to humans. So I see truth in both statements about giving -- helping others is always an act of power, the deepness (or flatness) of the hierarchy, and the perceived motivation and rewards (implied or conferred social status) may differ, but fundamentally helping others is an act of hierarchal positioning, and in most cases one that positively affects your position (or relative position anyway), so of course it makes one feel good - the reward centers of our brains are set up to be happy with better position.

That being said, I would still prefer the society where everyone helped each other out as, and it was a way to maintain status quo in the hierarchy rather than some act of "charity" (with the implications of 'I am your better by helping you out').


> fundamentally helping others is an act of hierarchal positioning

So you started with the idea that everything's about power, and then came to the insight that charity is also about power? If this were actually true, we'd have too many people willing to help. As you said, they just want to maximize their position in the hierarchy, right? In the volunteer organizations I've been in, I've never seen too many volunteers. (I'm in the 25-34 age group in a power-hungry East Coast city where people take themselves extremely seriously.)

Charity feels good because in our sacrifice we enter into another's needs on their behalf. This forces us to get over ourselves temporarily. I don't think it to be socialization; there's something more at work here.


For younger people, I suspect fear is a stronger motive. Making enough money right now is good, but is not comforting at all when you are at the beginning of a 40 years career.


Unfortunately this article doesn't really differentiate between income versus savings, which I think is relevant to the discussion.

It makes sense to me that once you reach a reasonable salary level (such as the $75,000 threshold mentioned), that any additional increase in salary doesn't really affect happiness all that much, because at the end of the day it's still tied to your job. If you don't come to work every day, you don't get paid. And if you have a family to support, you can't really arbitrarily take a one (or many) years off to pursue other interests you may have in life. So while doubling your income level to $150,000 might marginally improve your happiness, the effect is limited because you're still (more or less) having to work the same amount.

I suspect that the next threshold has less to do with salary, and more to do with having enough of a savings such that you no longer have to go to work every day. Now, a lot more options are open to you. You can choose to continue working if you want, but you can also choose to stop, and instead spend time with your family, travel the world, write a book, or whatever else you might want. At that level, you also don't have to worry about serious medical bills or other unforeseen emergencies destroying your savings.


I am currently fine with the amount I make, even though it's pretty low for my field. I've designed my lifestyle around what I can support financially, not the other way around.

Money rarely makes people happy. Stuff that money can buy is where they find happiness.

To me, more money equals security for the future. I often struggle to buy new things, constantly rationalizing why I should save rather than spend. These types of transactions don't make me happy.

I do find happiness spending money on trips or events though, as the article indicates.


I only spend a fraction of my current income, but I still seek more because those increases make me feel like I'm improving in my career and as a person, which is what really matters to me. It may be foolish to think that way, but it seems to be the metric our society uses.


If the amount of money you make is a reflection of improvement in oneself then our society is flawed. It makes sense that the amount of money you earn is a reflection of your skills, even though I would argue that having the freedom to choose what you work on is more of a reflection of your skills. This type of mentality where money=self worth is a misguided mentality when looking at life as a whole.

What about activities where there is opportunity for improvement but are not rewarded financially? Like playing a sport non-professionally, improving your cooking abilities, improving your relationship with others, etc.? Can improvement not be measured since money plays no role?


Can improvement not be measured since money plays no role?

I do believe you seek some kind of return in everything you do. Your job's return is money, but it doesn't necessarily have to be money.

Sports, relationships, etc. also have returns, but not in the form of money. If, for example, it is the adrenaline rush that draws you to sports, that feeling should increase as you improve. That is your payback to show that you are getting better.

So no, I don't think money necessarily has to play a role, but I think there needs to be something to show yourself that you are improving. Money just happens to be what the measure used in the workplace, as that is the primary reason for working.


Giving up stuff intentionally is not a new concept - whether it be the fasting traditions of western religion, the periodic avoidance of pleasure of stoic philosophers, or recognition of desire as a distraction of the buddhists (probably the most extreme of the examples) - it's been tried and found to be quite positive before.


Meh, I don't know if I agree at all.

I'm in the ballpark of the given number, and yes, I'm relatively happy with how much I make and what I can do with it, but I'm not going to stop trying to make more.

I want to make things, and money is a sign that the things I'm making are valuable to people. Money is a signal that tells me I'm on the right path.

Additionally, I'd love to take a few years off and spend more time with my family. Being tethered to a job, regardless of how much it pays, will not allow me to do that. Making a shitload of cash will.

Money may not buy happiness, but I find happiness much more attainable when I'm not living paycheck to paycheck and/or not knowing how I'm going to pay for dinner.


> Additionally, I'd love to take a few years off and spend more time with my family. Being tethered to a job, regardless of how much it pays, will not allow me to do that. Making a shitload of cash will.

This pretty much sums it up as far as I'm concerned. We all have only one shot at life on this planet, so unless you're comfortable spending all of your productive years working for just enough money to stay afloat, you'll want to save up as much money as you can, to buy yourself the freedom to make radical changes to the course of your life when the time comes that's what's necessary to 'increase happiness'.

I always get a little annoyed when people say or write stuff such as 'money does not buy you happiness'. In our modern, western societies, it actually does buy you happiness, provided you have enough of it, and don't blow it all on materialistic things. All those quasi-romantical perspectives how it's immaterial things like health, family and friends that make you happy are missing the point. It's not about money, that's just a medium of wealth, but about the opportunities you have for yourself and your loved ones to enjoy life. If you're lucky enough to have good health, family, friends and the financial means to make the most out of the privilege of having all that, you can be much happier than when you have to miss either one of those.

I realize that this may sound awfully shallow and materialistic, but it's just my observation of how this world turns. Sure enough you can be happy without being wealthy, but in the end, almost everyone would prefer being happy and wealthy, for the simple fact that it provides opportunities that are simply unattainable if you're happy but broke.


> I find happiness much more attainable when I'm not living paycheck to paycheck and/or not knowing how I'm going to pay for dinner.

That's pretty much the point though — for most people, once they get beyond the point of needing to worry about how they're going to pay for dinner (whatever that number might be in their personal situation), the value of extra money tapers off very quickly. Up to then, more money brings more happiness. After that, not so much.

The points made here also happily co-exist with using money to keep score of how much you're on the right path etc. The studies referenced are more to do with how you then spend that money, than with how much you actually bring in. Earning huge amounts, but then giving most of it away, is perfectly congruent.


I don't think that most people wish to make more money only so they can buy more things. This may have been true for the baby boomer generation, but peoples' attitudes towards money has changed quite a bit recently. When the realization that owning a home wasn't the ATM machine people always thought it would be, that changed most everyone's perspective on money.

I would argue that people wish to make at least enough money where they aren't struggling from paycheck to paycheck. That way they can easily afford to put food on the table, put clothes on their kids' backs, pay for their kids to go to college, and go on a family trip every once in awhile.


All other things being equal, I suppose more money is better than less. But ultimately, happiness is a decision we make every day—or not.

For me, a mindfulness meditation practice has made this daily decision much easier. I need so little to be happy, and find so much everywhere to be happy about.

We get what we expect, so expect the good.


> " But ultimately, happiness is a decision we make every day—or not."

This strikes me as a position that can only be taken by the already-fortunate. If you don't me saying so, it reads like "let them eat cake". It's easy for us bourgeois, upper-middle, people with relatively few worries to talk down to the poor "but can't you just choose to be happy and not sweat the little stuff?!" "take some time off and meditate on your happiness!"

But when you don't know where your next rent check is coming from, how you will put food on the table next week for your loved ones, and you are one flat tire away from missing work, getting fired, and complete ruin... happiness really isn't a decision you make every day.

There is a bar at which the basic needs of life are no longer constant worries, and a person can actually take the time to reflect and breathe. Most of this country is below that bar.


Interesting paper on the subject: Dunn et al. - If money doesn't make you happy, then you probably aren't spending it right http://www.wjh.harvard.edu/~dtg/DUNN%20GILBERT%20&%20WIL...


The NYT article is credited to ELIZABETH DUNN and MICHAEL NORTON, so one of the authors of the paper participated in the news article.


For those people facing financial ruin, having more money eliminates the immediate fear caused by not having enough. Once life's necessities are taken care of though, what else can money really buy? Wouldn't happiness plateau at some point?


It can buy a jetski. Have you ever seen an unhappy person riding a jetski?


Thank you Mr Tosh for that. And so everyone can enjoy the whole bit: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_RoLdkgjKhs


"He’s dead for a reason. He was a show-off, and he tried to spray us." - the dead cousin isn't happy. Neither is his Mom. Classic stuff!


Diminishing marginal utility




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