Well, people that judge others from a distance and immediately throw in their opinion basically always come across as bullies. Likely because they are, maybe without noticing.

Ironic? I tend to disagree. While the internet and especially social media have a very bad reputation amongst "boomers" these days, it is still far easier to pick a community you actually feel welcome in then in real life. It is easy to deal with trolls, just close the window and move on... Besides, when I used computers to escape the harsh reality of younger kids, the internet wasn't even a real thing yet, FidoNet was the way to go. We had forums, sure, but communication and posting comments wasn't the primariy use case for a computer. Tinkeering, and learning how the machine actually worked, was the primary time sink. Hacking INT 21H, learning qbasic from reading the manual... All things you would have taken away from me if you had anything to say. And the result would have been an adult without special skills and a ton of job opportunities right away. I guess 10 years or going to university after school, basically loosing 10 years of income, would have been prefered by you as a parent?

I wouldn't take anything away, just less time on the digital world. I'm surprised that you don't think spending a lot of time on a computer isn't healthy.