You can increase freedom/satisfaction by decreasing the things that you feel threaten it.
This is especially true in relationships, sometimes expressed as "don't sweat the small stuff—and it's all small stuff."
In evaluating a job or relationship, one technique is to make a pros and cons list, and put things that are easiest to adjust your attitudes on (like wearing a tie) in a third list to try to see the true value proposition.
Otherwise one risk is that you'll assume minor things may represent a "cultural/attitude problem" that doesn't really exist beyond a few easy-to-accept things, such as wearing a tie, taking out the garbage on a schedule, etc.
Of course, if the value proposition doesn't satisfy you, then you're in the wrong place. But if it does, keep your attention on the good things about the relationship as you practice "not sweating the small stuff."
This is especially true in relationships, sometimes expressed as "don't sweat the small stuff—and it's all small stuff."
In evaluating a job or relationship, one technique is to make a pros and cons list, and put things that are easiest to adjust your attitudes on (like wearing a tie) in a third list to try to see the true value proposition.
Otherwise one risk is that you'll assume minor things may represent a "cultural/attitude problem" that doesn't really exist beyond a few easy-to-accept things, such as wearing a tie, taking out the garbage on a schedule, etc.
Of course, if the value proposition doesn't satisfy you, then you're in the wrong place. But if it does, keep your attention on the good things about the relationship as you practice "not sweating the small stuff."